Anger Is Deadly

A close family member of mine gets so mad that he starts smashing things. His rage blinds him by insecurity and anger. At some point, it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong. His trembling voice poisons his mind beyond his own control and things get ugly. What follows is bad mood for days, turning of frustrations inward, leading to more abuse or deliberate self-harm. 

A lot of people don’t realize their anger is destructive. It intensifies with time due to the trigger points that make it more uncontrollable. 

Anger is unnatural

Human body is made to feel the experiences around us. The beauty of nature, little moments of joy, vast horizons of talents, incredible gifts of the Almighty, sweetness of relationships, warmness of compassion – the list is endless. Anger blinds us from these and takes us to the dark world inside where the mind starts to justify offensive behaviour. 

Seeds of this poison work their way out in the form of jealousy, hatred, unhealthy comparisons, ego, and loathing of others. As these emotions consume a person’s mind, the body starts to react. We develop certain behavioural aspects that become a part of our personality. For example, we begin to ignore/not give importance to others’ opinions, try to impose our view point or simply give a death stare to show our displeasure.


Effects of anger
From higher anxiety levels to change in the basic DNA – anger is more deadly that you can imagine. Experts suggest that anger has become so common that an average person feels its wrath about once a day and gets annoyed about thrice a day. 

About 45% of adults regularly lose their calm at their workplace, whereas 38% feel unhappy at work. More than one third of the world population suffers from anxiety or depression, which have become the largest causes of long-term sickness. More of these statistics can be read here at Mind Your Anger.
  

Anger Management
A lot has been said about anger management. Other than stress management, it is perhaps the most requested topic for discussion during my meditation workshops. Though people are generally aware about their anger and want to actively use anger management in their lives, their own personality restricts them sometimes. 

Anger management aims to reduce these very issues. It encourages acceptance towards emotional variations and physiological reasons that provoke anger. You can’t control external circumstances, nor can you put a stop to others’ habits, but you can control your reaction to it. There’s a complete post written on anger management of this blog which you can access here. 

Anger Management

“Do you know who I am?” Last night I heard someone shouting these words at a glossary store. The speaker was a tall man, who looked like someone from a affluent family, and he was shouting at a boy aged 14-15 years. This man was so full of ego that it overflowed in his every action. Someone interfered and sorted out the matter within two minutes.
Just after 10-15 minutes I saw the same man driving away his car rashly, as if wanted to show his anger to the world around, and the boy on the other hand was back to his cheerful jokes.


Time and again we come across people who are always ready to pick up an argument/fight, they only need a slight persuasion. These so called ‘hyper sensitive’ and ‘temperamental’ people can be seen at every corner– in the departmental store, on roads, within movie halls, at parties etc. They do not have a control on their feelings do have tendencies to burst out on others. Our reaction, when we see a incident like these, is often none. And chances are, that we will react in the same way under a similar situation - by loosing our self control and giving our ‘remote control’ of mood & feelings to others. We react and not act within circumstances. Now how much correct is that approach?

For more information on anger management, checking these sites will help:
http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html

http://www.isenbergs.com/