Friday, March 1, 2019

How to Let Go

Have you ever had the feeling that you missed someone so much, you didn't want to get up from bed. When thoughts of someone meet you smile and cry. When you wanted to go back in time and spend more days with that special person. When someone broke your heart, but you still find it difficult let them go. Letting go is the final stage of grieving over someone, weather dead or alive. Letting go allows you to give up the pain that you have held for long. In some cases, it means accepting the truth that a person or the things that you have been so compassionate about is no longer there. It means confronting your unpleasant emotions about the past and becoming comfortable with them. If you find it difficult to let go, here are 10 tips to help you. How to let go:
  • How To Let Go 1: Deal with people, one day at a time. Because when things don't go according to you, you have got to learn to deal with everything – one person a time.
  • How To Let Go 2: Give space to your loved ones in relationships. Most relationships fail because we expect too much in return. When you lower your expectations and give space to others, they will love you more.
  • How To Let Go 3: Do not limit yourself. Some people like to keep the situations hanging. Their belief system that they can’t do anything or it is not right to interfere keeps them miserable. Challenge yourself. The only thing that limits you is your imagination.
  • How To Let Go 4: Do not worry too much. Whatever will be will be. Excessive thinking about something doesn't make it easy to let go.
  • How To Let Go 5: Accept people for what they are and not how you want them to be. Keep room for mistakes. We are human beings. The being part in us lifelong learner. Allow it to learn.
  • How To Let Go 6: Learn to forgive: unless you forgive yourself and the situation, you cannot move forward. Letting go is all about learning. Forget the hurt, but take a lesson from it. If you dream of flying high, you have got to learn how to leave the earth.
  • How To Let Go 7: Be strong: Some of us think that holding grudges makes us stronger, it gives us some kind of power. Whether it is guilt, anger, frustration, betrayal letting go is never easy. Never fight to hold on, fight to let it go.
  • How To Let Go 8: Give up unneeded stress: You have to understand that people come and people go. This is life. It becomes easy when you let go of the unwanted stress. Stop   holding  those  who have let you go a long time back.
  • How To Let Go 9: Value yourself: Sometimes  we  have spent time with someone for so long  that we do not even realise  that is stopped valuing us time back.  The person  who doesn't value you blocks you from the one who  might.  Let them go.
  • How To Let Go 10: Be Happy: When you  let go,  you put your trust in  God,  allowing Him to  heal your wounds  and something magical happen.  God works in mysterious ways,  give him room.                                                     

Monday, February 11, 2019

How to Manage Anger?

Imagine a  life where there is no anger,  no frustration  or irritation.  Imagine a life  in which you are calm, happy and contended.  Now imagine  that life has already started. What makes us stop from  feeling good ? Are the circumstances always exterior or can you control some part of them?   For most of us,  anger drives us into  territories which cause regret.  Broken relationships,  grudges and feelings of resentment  are just one of the few ways   in which anger gets expressed.
So how do you manage something that has become such an integral part of your life?  How do you let go ?  I have researched and found some  Anger Management techniques  that may help.  You may take note of them try then what wine time you find the anger management  method that is perfect for you.

  1. Manage Anger #1: Act, not react. This anger control tool emphasizes the importance of reducing the frequency of thoughts so that the individual gets enough time to pass that critical time period (usually seconds or minutes) without reacting.
  2. Manage Anger #2 — Recognize your thoughts that cause stress. This anger management technique emphasizes the importance of understanding how stress underlies anger and how to reduce stress before it turns into anger. It helps to know what pushes your buttons and knowing your body’s anger signs. Stop and think! Decide what to do.
  3. Manage Anger #3— Develop Empathy. Learn to see things from other person’s perspective. Every individual being has his or her energy center and a set of habits/way to react. This anger management technique focuses on the relationship between empathy and anger control and how one can reduce his/her anger by learning how to see things from the perspective of others.
  4. Manage Anger #4 — Converse with yourself. Learn to talk to self, defeat negative self-talk. Give yourself titles that empower you to deal with anger more effectively.
  5. Manage Anger #5— Adjust Expectations. Anger is often triggered by a discrepancy between what we expect and what we get.  Learning to adjust those expectations—sometimes upward and other times downward—can help us cope with difficult situations or people or even cope with ourselves. Accept yourself/others as they are.
  6. Manage Anger #6 — Forgive. Let Go!  Resentment is a form of anger that does more damage to the holder than the offender.  Making a decision to “let go” (while still protecting ourselves) is often a process of forgiveness—or at least acceptance—and a major step toward anger control. Don’t hold on to your anger. Find ways to let it go. Talk about hurt and angry feelings. Look for someone to discuss your anger.
  7. Manage Anger #7 — Move away physically.  This anger control technique consists of removing yourself from the situation and taking a temporary “time-out” while sticking to some basic rules that are described.
Does this work for you? Do you have  something that you would like to add to this list?  Please comment below and I will be happy to make your suggestions a part of my life too.

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Happy Ganesh Chaturthi

Drifting down as happiness takes an upstream,

Ever drifting like a silver dream,
Comes those special times when faces gleam;
We all get ready with the good that will awake!

Merry is this time of the year.
Bright are memories we make and keep.
Sky gets cleared, new season takes a leap.

Festivities draw near!
That time of the year

Friday, September 7, 2018

Exploring Happiness!



But maybe
That’s how we like it best.

Thursday, August 2, 2018

3 Step Plan to Control Ego

This Monday, I had an argument with the guy who washes our car. Though my point of rebuking him was valid, letting the disagreement go out of hand wasn’t. It took me almost half a day to bring my mind to calm & another two days to pacify my maid, since he came from her reference. And that was after I call myself a spiritual, level-headed person. It was a small test of my control over words, and I blew it.
This small incident opened my eyes to the biasness that we have towards our own thoughts – ego, in other words. Years of doing regular meditation has brought it down to some level, but it still exists. The spiritual idea of knowing myself as a whole, and finding different (more positive) part of personality needs more practice. The self-important, self-centric part of doesn’t need to be destroyed. It just needs to be understood, and used only in the times of criticality. Keeping in mind the delicate balance this task requires, here are my three points of action:
1.       Recognise your size in proportion of the universe: If you think about it seriously, you are tinier than the speck of dust in the proportion of this whole universe. What you do in your daily life hardly affects things at this scale. The liberation of accepting your insignificance gives relief from self-centricity and helps to put self in the perspective.
2.       Recognise others’ importance: You know why so many people get stuck in traffic jams? Because everyone thinks that he’s more important and so tries to ram in between. Your journey is only as important as the person’s traveling next to you. So next time when your ego starts to jump up and down in the moment of showing who the boss is, remind yourself that every other person and every other work is as important as yours in this universe.
3.       Recognise the temporariness of every moment: Today’s headline is tomorrow’s forgotten fact. So many instances could have been avoided if we hadn’t let Ego blow them up into monumental proportions. Most of these are now forgotten moments. Change is inherent. Nothing lasts. Nothing stays in the same state as it is now for even a second. Go for your goals, and love the journey. But recognise the passing nature of time that makes everything seem as just a castle in the sand, to be washed out to sea by the waves of time.
Source: Brain-storming while writing for new client at Writing Routes

Monday, April 2, 2018

About the Mountains

The whisper of cold air in the morning
Of bonfire in the night
I hear the tiny sparrow
Playing melodious songs out in the open
Warm mountains in the sun
You caught me with your love
Brought me back to life
When it was difficult to carry on

The sunrise along my horizon
Is the dawn above your hills
It throws away the night
Lets excitement fill

During these moments I understand you

When you feel lonely late at night
Along the empty trees
When the sun peaks through the landscape
Do you ever think of me?

Monday, July 31, 2017

Monday Morning

New Hopes
Things to Cope
Monday Morning
Breathing the Fresh July Air
My Whole Week is Set!