The Art of Saying 'No'

Every time you say yes to something that is unimportant, you are saying ‘no’ to something important. “Yes sir” and “Yes madam” has never created anything great. There is a huge value in getting good at saying ‘no’

Say no to a colleague who wants to discuss useless office gossip with you, say no to a friend who wants to go out for shopping with you at the time when you are not willing, say no to those who spread cynicism, say no to relatives who laugh at your dreams and make you doubt your capabilities. Learn to say no to the social obligations that drain time from your life’s work.

You can never be all the things to people. It is absolutely okay to give your work more importance than useless time spent with others. Instead spend some quality time in doing introspection that will help you to reduce stress. Let your each day be full of positivity of life. Sure, some people will get upset if you choose to follow your wishes instead of theirs – but who cares?

Life has to be lived at your own conditions, don’t you agree?

Comments

Anonymous said…

Nitima,
You write about beautiful ideas. I hope that your path brings great joy to you as your thoughts have for me.

May 28, 2009 at 10:31 PM

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